Many people enter into a counseling relationship when there is something going on in their life that is causing them a great deal of emotional pain. Others come because they are looking for someone to “coach” them through an important transition. Still others begin therapy because of the trauma of a failed relationship or a chronic illness or because they want to live their lives without depending on someone or something else (drugs, alcohol, sex) to make them happy.
However, counseling is not a magic fix. No one else has the answers to your questions or the solutions to your problems. But, in a therapeutic relationship with a counselor, you will begin a journey that may lead you to an answer. It might not always be the answer you want, but it may be the answer you need.
The process begins with an “intake interview” during which you will have the chance to tell me your story. Your story will give me an idea of what you are looking for in a counseling relationship. After we get to know each other in the first few sessions and I’ve had a chance to draw you “family tree” (genogram), you and I will decide if I’m the right person to help you reach your goals. You will be the one who decides if it’s a good match for you. However, I may discover that I do not have the right skills to help you with your issues, and I may suggest that you seek another counselor who is better equipped to help you. After the first couple of sessions the real work begins. In a gentle but purposeful way, you and I will talk about your issues and frame them in the family systems model. Please note change is not easy! There will be times when things are going smoothly, and there will be times when change seems impossible. But remember the old adage: “The path is made by walking.” I will walk with you in a way that is both supportive and objective. I will listen to you attentively and ask you questions that will keep you on the path to solving your problems. However, you are the most important person in the journey towards a better life.
Your counseling relationship may be brief – just a few sessions – or it may go on for quite a while. You are free to end your counseling relationship when your goals are met or at any time along the way. You are welcome to take a break from counseling and then start up again at a later date. After they are finished, some folks like to return for a “tune up.”
You can speak directly to Dr. Perelli by calling (716) 886-4594.
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